Tracey Goyette Cote, a partner and chair of the domestic relations practice group at Shaheen
& Gordon, P.A., is the author of a new article recently published in
Living Safer magazine. The article, entitled
How to Tell the Kids You’re Getting Divorced (page 49-50 of Volume 8, Edition 2), provides helpful advice on how to
focus on your children’s needs during the transition between parenting
children as a couple to parenting in a post-divorce landscape.
Here are some important highlights from the article:
- It is best for parents to tell their children about their plans for a divorce
together. Children will benefit from a mutual discussion rather than hearing
it from one parent or the other separately.
- Parents should be respectful of their child’s right to have a positive
relationship with both of their parents. This means that badmouthing the
other parent, becoming overly emotional, or staying silent during the
divorce discussion are things to be avoided. A child should never have
to feel like they need to choose sides.
- When telling your child or children of your divorce, keep calm and avoid
overwhelming them with your emotions. Children will take the news better
if their parents are reassuring, strong, and emotionally stable.
- Avoid giving your child any inappropriate adult information about what
led to the divorce. This will further protect your child’s right
to have a positive relationship with both of their parents.
- When it comes to timing, tell your children about your plans when you are
sure they are final. It is also best to choose a time that isn’t
too close to other significant life events, like birthdays or family celebrations.
- Prepare yourself for your child’s reaction. Depending on their age
and temperament, they could have a wide variety of responses. Give them
time to process the information and be sure to be available to talk when
they are ready.
Follow the link above to read the full text of the article.
At Shaheen & Gordon, P.A., we handle a wide variety of divorce and
family law matters, including
support and custody modifications, and more. Known for providing compassionate, personalized service, our
team’s primary focus is on helping you achieve your goals as efficiently
as possible. We encourage you to get in touch with a member of our domestic
relations team to talk about your case during an initial consultation.
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